Thursday, May 12, 2011

When it Hurts So Bad

I’ve heard stores of women finding out that their husband Carl now wants to be Carla. Or stories of women who’s husbands have given them AIDS or some other STD. Some women’s husbands have children with other women while they’re pregnant. This is the kind of hurt that I can imagine could paralyze a woman and make her just want to crawl into a hole and die. I know that God never puts more on us than we can handle but some kinds of pain seem like more than we can bear.

What do you do when the one person that you never thought would hurt you does just that? When the person you trusted and put your all into really hurts your feelings and even worse doesn’t seem to be phased that you’re hurt. Of course you know that people will let you down at some point, to err is human. But when that one person be it a best friend, a husband, a pastor, or a parent lets you down how do you deal with it?

When the thoughts continue to race in your head. When you have the Goodbyes and Flashbacks constantly on your mind and you can’t seem to go 5 minutes without thinking about how bad it hurts, what then? What do you do when you can’t look at them without seeing what they did to hurt you? You can’t have much of a happy relationship when you’re trying to act like everything is normal and inside you’re hurting and wanting to either cry or lash out at the person you once loved (and in some ways still do) with all your heart.

Many times people do us wrong and apologize, buy flowers or candy or whatever your love gift of choice is and expect things to go back to normal. It’s much easier to forgive than forget. And how can you say you truly forgive someone if you can’t look at them the same way? How do you try to cope without putting up walls or acting totally different towards them?

What are some ways that you have coped with hurt in your relationships?

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